Check out the Shabbatness blog every Sunday night for your weekly fix on life, love, and the lessons and laughs we can take away from it all. Get advice and anecdotes on dating and matchmaking, reviews on hot date spots in NYC, and Q & A from the Shabbatness community on tackling texting, Tinder, breaking up, making up, and everything in between.

September 2, 2017


It had been a rough day. I was drained and down, having spent the last few hours of a 12-hour day at my new job repairing the damage from an accidental “reply all” email referencing a co-worker’s psoriasis.  To top it off, I had dropped and cracked my phone, had some questionably fishy sushi for lunch, and walked into my East Village apartment to find a mouse writhing on a sticky pad on the floor. It was a Friday night, and I had been in New York for less than two months.  I was broke, bloated, and burnt out, and the last thing I wanted to do was go out. In fact, I decided to declare it a “Tom n’ take-out” night, ordering Mexican off Seamless and putting on You’ve Got Mail. Right when Meg Ryan scrunched up her face at the site of Tom’s dog Brinkley in the concluding […]
August 28, 2017

“Top Tips” Special Feature for Gotham Men’s Club

Super psyched to launch my regular feature for Gotham Men’s Club! Check out the first of my “Top Tips” article below, which can also be found on their website here. ———————————————————————————————————————————————– Dating is hard. Especially in today’s society–despite the fact that we live in an increasingly connected world, it often feels harder and harder to connect with people on a deeper level. The easy solution is simply to say, “I’m going off the grid. No more online dating–I’m going to meet women in person from now on.” But walk outside, and you’ll see nearly everyone on their phones. So where do you start? It can certainly feel overwhelming. However, one ambitious woman is attacking this issue head-on–she’s using her knowledge of the NYC dating scene to host intimate get-togethers and essentially play “matchmaker” to singles all over the city. Who is she? Her name is Erin Davis–and we were lucky […]
August 21, 2017

Special Feature in The Forward: “Meet Erin Davis, Fairy Godmother Of The New York City Jewish Singles Scene”

There is one thing on which we can ALL agree. It’s something that we continuously want more and more. We always seem to be running out of it, and we can’t ever get enough of it. TIME! After a long day of work, we only have so many hours left in the day to socialize, date, work out, eat, run errands, you name it – then it’s back to the grind the very next day. My Shabbatness goal is to maximize the very minimal time we all have by putting together dinners and events that give us an opportunity to meet new people, network, and bond over a shared experience featuring food, booze, and fun – all at the same time! With everyone’s busy weekend travel schedules in the summer in NYC, its almost impossible to coordinate events on Shabbat, so I came up with Shabbatness Schvitzfest, a weekday workout event, which was recently covered by ultra-talented journalist Jenny Singer at The […]
August 14, 2017

The Bachelor

On April 25, 2002, my pimply, pudgy, frizzy-haired high school self sat sobbing in my living room alongside my mom and two best girlfriends. The four of us were inconsolable. Heartbroken. Wadded up tissues littered the floor. It was the finale of The Bachelor, and Alex Michel had just rejected Trista Rehn in a heart-breaking final rose ceremony. Since the hit ABC show premiered in 2002, I have yet to miss a season. I take the highs and the heartbreaks personally. Chris Harrison is my friend. I treat each season finale as the Superbowl of love, with themed viewing parties featuring finger foods, booze, and play-by-play commentary. I could never have imagined my love for the show transitioning from onscreen to real life, until….. Last week, 15 years after I first tuned in to The Bachelor, I found myself sitting alongside Nick Viall, the star of the show’s twenty-first season […]